The Mental Mistake 90% of Golfers Don’t Realize They’re Making

By Kevin Cotter, PGA

Every golfer believes their inconsistency comes from swing mechanics, tempo, or setup.
But the truth is far simpler—and far more powerful.

Most golfers fall into the same predictable pattern:

They react to outcomes instead of committing to intentions.

And this one mental mistake quietly destroys rounds, confidence, and rhythm more than anything else.

Let’s break it down.


The Hidden Trap — Playing Reactive Golf

A reactive golfer plays golf after the swing is over.

They judge the shot.
They tighten on the next one.
They shift their focus.
They lose rhythm.
They chase a “quick fix” mid-round.

The pattern looks like this:

  • Hit a poor shot → emotional spike
  • Try harder on the next one → tension rises
  • Overcorrect → mechanics collapse
  • Confidence wavers → performance spirals

Instead of controlling their state, they let the result control them.

This is reactive golf—and almost every golfer does it.


The Elite Difference — Playing With Intention

Great players aren’t perfect. They miss fairways and greens like everyone else.

But they don’t let the miss define the next swing.

They commit to an intention before the swing and judge success based on:

  • Did I commit?
  • Did I choose the correct shot?
  • Did I stay neutral after the outcome?

Outcome is information.
Intention is control.

This is the foundation of playing intentional golf.


Why Intention Matters More Than Mechanics

Your mechanics don’t break down randomly.
They break down when your mind and body become misaligned.

Intention creates:

  • clarity
  • consistency
  • confidence
  • rhythm
  • freedom

When intention is strong, your movement becomes organized.

When intention collapses, tension takes over.

If you want reliable mechanics, you must first control your mental process—because it controls everything else.


The 3-Step Reset to Stop Reactive Golf

Here is a simple, tour-tested process you can use immediately:


1. Pause the Reaction

Right after the shot, do nothing.
No judgment.
No emotion.
Just a breath.

This creates space—it’s the difference between reacting and responding.


2. Ask the Only Question That Matters

“Did I commit to the shot?”

If yes → accept and move on.
If no → reset your process—not your swing.

This question puts you back in control.


3. Anchor the Next Intention

Before the next shot, define:

  • target
  • shape or trajectory
  • feel or cue
  • acceptance

When intention is clear, the body organizes itself around it.

This is the secret to consistent golf.


How This One Shift Lowers Scores

When you stop reacting and start committing, three things happen almost immediately:

1. Your tension levels drop

You no longer “try harder” or “force” swings.

2. Your misses improve

A committed miss is almost always playable.

3. Your rhythm stabilizes

You stop jumping between swing thoughts, fixes, and emotional reactions.

Most golfers think they need a better swing.
What they really need is better intention.


Final Thought — The Shot Matters Less Than the State You’re In

Consistency comes from your mental state, not your mechanics.

If you can adopt one change today, let it be this:

Judge each shot by your commitment, not your outcome.

It will radically change the way you play golf.


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The Golf Grip: Your Essential Foundation for a Consistent Swing

By Kevin Cotter, PGA
The grip is the crucial link between your body and the golf club — the point where feel, control, and power all begin. Arnold Palmer captured it perfectly:

“The grip is the crucial junction point from which all the body’s strength and rhythm are transferred to the club.”

A sound grip is not just a fundamental—it’s the foundation of every consistent, repeatable golf swing.


The Three Primary Golf Grips

Golfers generally use one of three classic grip styles. Each has unique benefits, and understanding them helps you select the grip that best suits your hands, mechanics, and comfort.


1. The Overlapping Grip (Vardon Grip)

The most widely used grip in golf, named after legendary champion Harry Vardon.

How it works:

  • The right pinky rests on top of the gap between the left index and middle fingers.
  • This softly “connects” the hands into one unified unit.

Benefits:

  • Encourages a natural release of the club.
  • Promotes hand unity without tension.
  • Ideal for players with medium or larger hands.

This grip is the preferred choice for most advanced golfers because it blends control with fluidity.


2. The Interlocking Grip

A favorite among players wanting an even more secure hand connection. Used famously by Jack Nicklaus and Tiger Woods.

How it works:

  • The right pinky hooks around the left index finger, interlocking them together.

Benefits:

  • Creates a very strong, unified hand structure.
  • Prevents the dominant hand from overpowering the swing.
  • Great for players with smaller hands or those seeking tighter control.

If your hands tend to separate during the swing, this grip can be a game-changer.


3. The Ten-Finger Grip (Baseball Grip)

Less common among seasoned golfers, but incredibly useful for beginners and players with limited strength.

How it works:

  • All ten fingers remain in contact with the club, similar to holding a baseball bat.

Benefits:

  • Easy to learn and very comfortable.
  • Provides leverage for players who need extra strength.
  • Ideal for juniors, newcomers, or players overcoming physical limitations.

While it may lack some refined control, it is an excellent stepping-stone grip for developing players.


Choosing the Right Grip for Your Game

There is no single “correct” grip — just the one that fits your hands, preferences, and golf goals.

Ask yourself:

  • Which grip feels most natural?
  • Do my hands stay connected throughout the swing?
  • Am I gaining control without adding tension?

Mastering your grip is one of the fastest ways to improve ball striking, create consistency, and unlock your natural swing motion.